Balanced Work

Balanced Work by Bria Simpson


Many of my clients and friends are grappling with the fear of going back to work after staying home with children. Many don't believe they can find meaningful work and still maintain a healthy balance at home and a strong relationship with their children.

I understand. I used to have the same fears. And I went through several years of not knowing what I would do once I went back to work. But I can tell you that the time spent in uncertainty is okay. And the search is important. Because once you find fulfilling work that fits into the hours you want, and you consistently spend quality time with your children, and you ask for the help you need at home, the payoff is tremendous.

Consider these tips to help you along the way:

* Don't compare your job or your salary to your spouse. If you've opted off the career track to be a stay-at-home-parent, of course you aren't going to be able to jump back in and make his salary! But that doesn't mean that working isn't valuable and meaningful. Don't compare.
* Open yourself to new possibilities. Forget what you "used to do". What are you passionate about now? Regardless of past degrees and experience, focus on who you are now.
* Seek support. Ask your spouse/partner and trusted friends for emotional support. Tell them what you need. If you feel stuck, hire a professional to help you brainstorm ideas and motivate you.
* Choose balanced work. Find or create a job that allows you to maintain a healthy balance. Consider priorities such as regular exercise, quality time with your family and close friends, and essential down time.
* Find fulfillment. I consider work to be fulfilling if you are passionate about and it brings you joy. Don't settle for anything less.
* Maintain a strong connection with your children. When you know your kids are well- cared for in your absence, and you make time to be present with them every day, you can put guilt in the graveyard and feel good about your work. You can also feel good knowing your kids are internalizing that moms can be both loving caretakers and dynamic individuals!


We all have strengths and talents to offer the world (yes, you do too!). And we've got one shot at this life. Let's make it a good one!